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Hello, everybody. It's Damon with Recovered Life. Good to see you today. This is take two, actually. I had promised everybody this video yesterday, live from my garden, and guess what? I recorded a beautiful video. Guess what? The new mic I bought didn't work. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. It was one of those.
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It was a half-hour video, and I absolutely loved it. I said, you know, this is going to be a great one. I went back a couple hours later after doing the live on TikTok and sure enough, no go, no audio, no audio. So coming at you with take two today. It's Tuesday. I hope you're doing well.
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This is a new format we have here on Recovered Life TV. I hope you like it. This one is live from my garden. Now you're going to notice I've got a strawberry pot here. And I'm live from my garden. Nothing's in it.

Let Go of the Outcome, Live in the Now

We beat ourselves up chasing perfect results—but what if the joy is found in showing up, letting go, and trusting the process?
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This is take two.
The first version of this video was beautiful. It was real, raw, heartfelt… and completely silent. My new mic didn’t work.

It felt fitting though—because this video is all about letting go of perfection.

I shot this in my garden, which, by the way, is a bit of a mess right now. No seeds planted. No soil hauled in. Nothing growing in the strawberry pot behind me. And the second I stepped into that space, I started beating myself up.

“I should’ve planted weeks ago.”
“Why didn’t I buy the soil when it was on sale?”
“You’re behind, Damon.”

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Sound familiar?

We “should” all over ourselves.
We chase some invisible finish line of when everything’s perfect, and in doing so, we miss what’s actually happening right now.

Why Are We So Hard On Ourselves?

It’s a question I ask in this video—and honestly, one I’ve wrestled with throughout recovery.

We give grace to everyone else.
We root for them, support them, remind them they’re doing their best.
But when it comes to ourselves? We beat ourselves up.

Even when things are going well.
Even when the outcome looks great on paper.

I once closed a big deal—huge win. But the next day, I was filled with anxiety. Because I’d wrapped so much of my worth into that result, and it still didn’t feel like enough.


Here’s What I’m Learning (Again):

  • You can play full out without clinging to the outcome.

  • You can pursue excellence without needing it to go exactly your way.

  • You can be sober and successful—and still give yourself permission to breathe.

  • You can live your life with purpose without being choked by pressure.

In early sobriety, someone told me:

"I want to wear my recovery like a loose garment."

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That stuck with me. I never wanted to live uptight and guarded. I’ve had enough fear in my life.

And yet… when I stop being present, when I obsess over what’s next, that fear creeps back in. And I forget that joy exists right here. Right now. Even with weeds in the garden.

Letting Go Before You Begin

One of the biggest lessons I’ve had to learn—and relearn—is this:

Let go before you even start.
Set your goals. Chase them with heart. But don’t tie your peace to a perfect outcome.

Because when we do, we miss out on the blessing that’s happening as we speak.

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I’ll be planting some tomato plants soon—maybe not from seed, and maybe a little later than planned—but I’m showing up. And I’m letting go of whether or not I get fruit. I’m just enjoying the planting.

That’s recovery, too.

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Listen Linda's avatar

Yes I feel this way sometimes. I guess I let my age get to me. I feel as though I have lots of limitations that prevent me fro

from doing the things I like to do. I loved this video. Thank you

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Wendy Behar's avatar

Yes! We are responsible for the effort ; not the outcome. My sponsor used to say … wear life like a loose garment. Thank you for the reminder. After 27 years of sobriety I still love meetings, Revovery and your message today.

I need to let go of a situation in my life and trust.

Prayer helps. I also love to tell my coaching clients to make a god box or worry box. 💕

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This is a new format we have here on Recovered Life TV. I hope you like it. This one is live from my garden. Now you're going to notice I've got a strawberry pot here. And I'm live from my garden. Nothing's in it.